tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015084040259761401.post9096688380641249432..comments2023-05-21T05:28:00.503-05:00Comments on Nicole Baart: IdentityNicole Baarthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12126739050064302961noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015084040259761401.post-13330791150793061592009-04-02T18:52:00.000-05:002009-04-02T18:52:00.000-05:00I've struggled with something along the same l...I've struggled with something along the same lines my entire life. My love language is words of afirmation so I have always craved the praise about how well I did something, etc...I became a perfectionist, but not really where my appearance was concerned. Just in how I performed tasks and such. If I didn't think I could do it perfectly the first time I wouldn't even try. <br>Then when I went to a mom's group the speaker said something that struck me. She was talking about seeing the perfectionist tendencies in her daughter and they realized they had to start praising her for who she was in Christ and not in how she did things. That hit me like a ton a bricks. <br>I still struggle with it to this day, but I am learning that I am a child of God and that's where my identity is and not in the affirmations and praise for how well I do things.<br>Didn't mean to write a book here. Thanks for posting this. I've caught bits of the Toddlers & Tiaras and it breaks my heart as well.Amyhttp://amykiane.typepad.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015084040259761401.post-55036642146872483762009-04-02T19:11:00.000-05:002009-04-02T19:11:00.000-05:00Such a good post...Joyce Meyer says we are not hum...Such a good post...Joyce Meyer says we are not human doings we are human beings. Be still and know that I am God. Thank you for this beautiful reminder that we are accepted in the Beloved-not because of who we are but because He first loved us. Selah! Pause and calmly think of that.Anniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10008052077819328068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015084040259761401.post-81898046887187495542009-04-02T19:19:00.000-05:002009-04-02T19:19:00.000-05:00I have two daughters (five and two years old) and ...I have two daughters (five and two years old) and I gasp daily at the vanity my kindergartner is exposed to at school. Most frightening for me right now is that my daughter goes to school with a little girl whose mother has her on a diet of mostly salad so that she will stay thin. My daughter now asks me the caloric content of all that I put on her plate, and it is heart wrenching. If anything, my daughter needs to GAIN weight. I tell her very frequently (almost too much) how beautiful she is, inside and out. Thank you, Nicole, for sharing such thoughtful and heartfelt insights on this topic!Sherryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11978423910080306435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015084040259761401.post-35939253080933655002009-04-02T19:24:00.000-05:002009-04-02T19:24:00.000-05:00Words of affirmation are big for me, too, Amy. But...Words of affirmation are big for me, too, Amy. But somehow they're never enough... I'm like an addict--the more I get the more I want. It's a never ending cycle. And you're so right that we ingrain this in our kids. I love my sons and I'm so proud of them; consequently it's very easy to praise them up and down for how smart, handsome, kind, generous, and funny I think they are. No inherent harm in that, but we run the risk of setting them up for feelings of inadequacy any time they aren't super-fabuloso in every possible way. Now I'm writing a book... ;)<br><br>Thanks for your reminders, too, Annie. I appreciate your responses. Thank you for writing exactly the words I needed to read.<br><br>Blessings to you and yours.Nicole Baarthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12126739050064302961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015084040259761401.post-53417983233970785722009-04-02T20:04:00.000-05:002009-04-02T20:04:00.000-05:00Okay, some mom has her kindergartner on a diet?!?!...Okay, some mom has her kindergartner on a diet?!?! Five-year-olds know what calories are? Am I the only one who thinks this is child abuse??? Oh, Sherry, my heart goes out to your sweet daughter and her friends. Fight on, Mom.Nicole Baarthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12126739050064302961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015084040259761401.post-71685547970467407442009-04-03T08:35:00.000-05:002009-04-03T08:35:00.000-05:00Hey Nicole! I loved what you wrote. It is hard r...Hey Nicole! I loved what you wrote. It is hard raising little girls in this world but I pray almost every day that their identity is found in Christ alone! I see so many changes just from kindergarten to 1st grade and it has been hard but we continually affirm who she is in Christ and the gifts He has given her. People have such a hard time truly believing that we are LOVED by Him and I pray my kids will believe that and rest in that truth. Just keep praying and speaking truth to these little girls!Jayminoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015084040259761401.post-2460556632431792262009-04-03T15:36:00.000-05:002009-04-03T15:36:00.000-05:00Hi Jaymi! So nice to hear from you. :) You're one ...Hi Jaymi! So nice to hear from you. :) You're one of the best moms I know--I have no doubt your girls will be beautiful women of God.Nicole Baarthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12126739050064302961noreply@blogger.com